Good morning dear hearts,
So, this morning I woke up to the clearing throats of two children who were itching to hand over their Mothers Day presents they purchased with the $5 bucks their Dad (and my dearest who is currently snoring next to me through the commotion) gave them each to spend at the school Mothers Day stall. All in all, I have to say, they were quite delightful! Uncertain yet as to what I will do with a pink flamingo planter stick thingy but, over the moon that I was thought of so lovingly, muggy, chocolately, tea-towelly,- bowly, plantery…and pink!! – such valuable treasure they are indeed! One lucky chook right here! 😀 ❤ (P.S The hugs and squeals were the best though!)
This then had me thinking about living what I call “A Considered Life” and asking myself whether life is currently working out for me the way I need it to be and moreover the way I feel that I am capable and comfortable in doing with lived experiences of mental health challenges. In other words – I was once again asking ‘what is my why?” and whether I was putting my money where my mouth is. The voice of my late mother popped into my head and she would say “all in all, its okay, I can’t complain – if I complain no body listens!” Bless ya Mum! Still love and miss ya guts right here! 🙂
It was time that I stopped and once again asked myself the authentic and wholehearted questions. What is my why? Is my idea of what I want things to be and the reality something completely different. Am I finding myself in need of aspiring to be something or someone rather than taking stock and becoming friends with who I already am?
So began in earnest The Considered Life.
In my pajamas.
Writing this for you now.
On Mother’s Day – a gift to myself for being so freaking awesome in a Bipolarish Mum kinda way!
It is life choices that have been carefully thought about really – in a form of self care and nurturing. Some of the questions I have added to the list include:
- Choosing to do things that I want to not because I have to
- Participating in activities that value add and are good for the soul
- Honouring my own health and wellbeing
- Listening to my heart and soul response – if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it
- Changing my attitude towards the things I cannot change
- Choosing to understand but knowing when I cannot receive all the answers and be at peace with that
- Living slowly (and if I feel the need to rush, ask myself why and take 6 deep breaths)
- If I need to engage in a difficult situation, what self care tools have I taken along with me?
- Acknowledging that putting our personal wellbeing first is a gift to ourselves and not selfishness
- Understanding that worthiness has no pre-requesites
- No. Can also be a complete sentence
- Over explaining is not required as I don’t have to hussle for external approval.
- Focusing on the present and forgive myself when I don’t
- Gentle boundary settings with clear focus
- Engaging with nurturing and soulful folks who uplift
- Removing expectations attached to social “job descriptions” (relations, community, family)
- Accepting life for what it is without having to overthink it.
- Trusting my intuition
When life and the weight of it starts to lift then you know that can only be a good thing and my dear ones, the sun is shining and I am going to go sit out on the front porch in my daggy pajamas, my favourite cardigan and drink my chai from my “best mum ever’ mug!